IS MARRIAGE EASY?

With social media being such a huge avenue for communication, it can be easy to look at peoples lives and think ‘wow, I want that!’ What we don't see however is the tears, the pain and the struggles that have occurred in the lead up to the photo. So is marriage easy? You could look at photos of Jacob and I on my social media and think ‘their marriage looks amazing’. And without a doubt it is amazing, but it's not perfect and it's not always easy.

My husband and I have only been married for a little over 7 months so I'm not claiming to know it all by know, I just wanted to share some thoughts around marriage as a young couple who are only 7 months in.

Sometimes it can be easy to forget about the weight that marriage carries. Although you may be spending almost as much time together as you did before you were married, there's a covenant that's been formed and there's a weight that that covenant bares. Because of this, when you fight, argue or are in disagreement with each other, there's a heaviness and urgency to resolve that conflict. Whether or not this is just me, I've also found been in conflict hurts more now, than it did before. In the Bible in Mark 10:8, we read, 'and the two are united into one. Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together'. This, is the covenant of marriage.

Jacob and I live busy lives, we work part time and attend college 5 days a week. We are often tired, grumpy and irritable with each other because of this. We have difficult conversations and arguments, but we resolve them and move on. We try to engage in activities we both enjoy so that we can have that quality time together. So to answer the question, is marriage easy? No, it isn't always easy, but it's not always difficult either.

I believe there will be easier seasons than others and seasons that will both stretch the marriage and bring us closer. I think the easiest way to make marriage 'easy' is to love God and pursue Him together, love your spouse and be their biggest support (even in the difficult times), seek to always resolve conflict and put your marriage first!

I hope this blesses you!